I came across this book called 51 things you should know before getting engaged by Michael Batshaw and i enjoyed every bit of it and i have to admit it has changed our way of viewing certain aspects of life. So here is what you should know.
2. Hollywood gets it wrong
3. Beware of the person of your dreams
4. If you put your partner on a pedestal, take him off
5. If you find yourself on a pedestal, get off
6. Great sex will not save a mediocre relationship
7. Mediocre sex cam become great sex with patience and determination
8. You have to know your own flaws, imperfections, and weaknesses. Admit them to yourself and your partner.
9.What is your partner's true character? These qualities are not likely to change in the future
10. Get to know your partner's relationship history and patterns
11. Look carefully at how your partner takes care of himself
12.Daily living living habits may be more important than you realize
13. You must respect what your partner does for a living.
14. If you think that she will change her mind in time, be careful.
15. Don't wait forever for progress in the relationship on issues that are important to you.
16. If you have sexual issues that are not going away, a little help can make all the difference.
17. Patience is a virtue. No, really, it is
18. How do you feel about family and children?
19. Be open to discussing your family's problems you've probably inherited some of them anyway
20. You're going to have to deal with your future in-laws whether you love them or not
21. Religion is not unimportant
22.Marriage is also a business. Money is a real issue.
23.We are not created equal. Be aware of your differences
24. Get off your high horse
25. Talk about the little issues or they will grow into big issues
26. If you really knew me, you would never hurt me.
27. Don't express every random thought that you have in your head about your partner.
28. Couples who don't argue are in trouble
29. The more you yell, the less you will be heard.
30.Don't compare your partner to someone you both dislike.
31. The best couples argue forcefully but with empathy and respect.
32. Never say "you never" or "you always"
33. Real people will fall short of your expectations over and over again.
34. Apologies are golden, but make them real.
35. Apologies are incomplete without a change in behaviour
36. Everyone doubts at one time or another whether his partner is "the one"
37. Everyone goes through dark times in a relationship
38. It's normal to feel attracted to someone who's not your partner
39. Attracted to another person? Don't put yourself in harm's way
40. The truth of the moment is not the whole truth
41. Marriages doesn't have magical powers to make problesm go away
42.Don't think that having children is going to make it better
43. Your relationship should not be your only passion in life
44. Cultivate your friendships
45. Couples who share activities are closer.
46. Couples who do everything together cannot survive.
47. Be careful not to control or to be controlled in your relationship
48. Practice, practice, practice.
49.connect to your partner in a physical(but nonsexual) way everyday.
50.Express frequent gratitude about what you like and love about your partner.
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